No two first-time sex stories are the same. If you thought you were the only person to lose your virginity while some awful song that was popular in the mids played, take comfort in the fact that you are not at all. Here are nine men and women on what first-time sex was like for them, without sparing the intimate and cringe-worthy details.
Like many times. That should preface how my first attempts at sex went. But he got on top of me and nothing happened. Somehow my tightly-wound brain was sending signals to my vagina that nothing would be entering my body.
No peen was gonna pass. I reported back to my friends that it was never gonna happen. After some extensive Googling, I realized that when women are on top it gives them more control during sex.
So we tried it, and like magic actually about 15 minutes of me agonizingly lowering myself onto him it happened. My gynecologist still comments on how strong my weird vagina is, but figuring out ways to relax myself has gotten a lot easier. We must have waited two, maybe three months before having sex for the first time an eternity in the mind of a teen boy.
I was sure I was about to have mind-blowing sex with my girlfriend. I had watched insane amounts of porn leading up to this, and I totally knew what I was doing. That all changed when we entered her room. She had a lit candle on her desk. There were never candles in porn!
Why was there a candle there? Was I actually ready for this? I felt queasy, and dizzy, and I'm pretty sure I was shaking a little bit. Maybe a lot. She asked me if I had done this before, and I panicked and I told her that I had sex once before in eighth grade — the same weird, shitty lie I tried to impress my friends at summer camp with. After a few uncomfortable and slightly painful adjustments to our positions, I was ready to go to pound town. And 30 seconds later, my business in pound town was finished. I knew that she was a little disappointed in the length of my performance to say the least.
Even though we don't talk anymore, I do wish that she had known that she was my first because that's a special, mutual connection that I can't have with anybody else.
He invited me over one day after school while his parents weren't home. I remember being in his childhood bedroom, feeling very awkward and sort of waiting for something to happen. It was so bad — he was on top and it lasted like 45 seconds, maybe. The best part is the stupid playlist he had on. Literally while he was inside of me, 'Whatever You Like' by T.
I will never hear that song and not think of losing my virginity. He apologized for only lasting a second and then, to top it off, when he pulled out the condom fell off inside of me. I ended up running into his mom when I went to the bathroom and left quickly after.
Of course I panicked and bought Plan B that week. And of course, like we all do, I slept with him a few more times that summer. Obviously, it was something I'd built up. It was a really important moment to me. In hindsight I wish it had been someone who didn't end up breaking my fucking heart. Or at the very least I wish it had been someone who cared if I had an orgasm or not. He had already had sex before but was very patient and put up with my wild insecurities.
We decided to do it over winter break in a hotel room. He chose to blast the entire Outkast discography from his phone. Everything went pretty smoothly and, again, he was very kind and patient. Afterwards, we went out for Chinese food. Probably feeling very jazzed about just having DONE IT, he ordered a giant plate of meat and ate it all, even though I warned him that it looked a little sketchy. Lo and behold, on our romantic walk home, he stopped suddenly and gripped my hand. Then remembering the correct way to put on a condom took a minute and I didn't expect the weird silence, inactivity, and pressure I felt while I fumbled with the wrapper.
After it was all over, I remember feeling that the entire experience was very underwhelming. I wasn't sure if I had finished or not but I just got so tired that I wanted to stop!
The second time I had sex was so much better when I discovered that I actually hadn't finished the first time. I much prefer to talk about the first time I had sex with a woman. We weren't exactly sure what we were doing. We didn't really know if what we were doing was gay. It totally was. Now I see it but at the time we were like, haha this is innocent AF! We're just BFFs who want to feel affection and aren't getting it from boys so whatever!
We would kiss everywhere but the mouth. Cheeks, neck, hands, face, head. We eventually kissed on the mouth, which spurred a whole conversation about the reality of what we were doing. Then in the same week, she came over and we had a few glasses of red wine and she slept over.
We started making out and I went down on her. It was a really weird experience because I wasn't sure where we were at emotionally. She came pretty immediately. We dated for about two years. Senior year during spring break, one of my friends went on vacation with his family and asked me to house-sit. Basically, my friends were in the other room when we started fooling around. When the girl and I were ready, I realized I had to go ask if any of them had a condom.
My friend had to go out to his car to get it. But when I put it on I got nervous and was no longer hard, then I took the condom off and in the process I poked a hole in it. I asked my friend for yet another condom and he went to his car again.
We were finally doing it, but I was still so nervous that it was impossible to come. Plus, the whole time her dad had been blowing up her phone and was calling her friends. One of her friends didn't know what to do so she called my friend, who had to come into the room to stop us and tell us that the girl had to go home. Overall, I think my mom was more happy for me than I was.
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